Why Gay Men Go To The Baths All these bathhouse stories probably have you asking, “Why do I spend so much time at the baths.” That is a fair question. This essay will clarify why so many gay men (myself included) spend so much time at the baths. The bathhouse scene is a real society…
Open Relationships There comes a time in any long-term gay relationship when a change is needed. While a couple can love one another and not imagine a life without each other, the sex can get stale. In short, a couple must have new sexual experiences outside the relationship. To try new things, experiment, and get…
Chubs and Chasers Some gay men who go to the baths look for a specific type of guy that isn’t typically found in a bar, club, or even personals. Sometimes you must go to the baths to seek the man who fits your ideal type. Case in point, Malcolm, who is newly out and very…
Been There Done That Being a bathhouse regular, you repeatedly meet and see some of the same guys over and over again. With some men, you can be friendly. With others, you can acknowledge and give a nod or a sign of recognition. Then there are those you ignore. Being ignored by other men is…
Christmas @ The Baths One of the unique aspects of a bathhouse is the hours. You can go at any time, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. The baths are even open during the holidays. As a veteran of the tubs, I have gone on Thanksgiving, Mother’s Day, Easter Sunday, and Xmas Day.…
The Price of Admission So let me ask you a question. What can $25.00 buy you right now? The novel for the next book club? Some groceries? Your weekly packs of cigarettes? For me, $25.00 is the price to rent a room for eight hours at the baths. Regarding the baths, I have lost all…
Gay Porn The one thing constant in most bathhouses across North America (other than all the easy sex) is that each establishment has a room designated for viewing gay porn during the lull moments at the baths. The typical porn room features a TV with couches or chairs for men to sit on. As I…