Drug Use @ The Baths: Part 2 The prevalence of drug use among gay men continues to amaze me. Many of these men can function, hold a job, and maintain relationships with others. Simultaneously, the individual is ingesting drugs all day long. They do not use marijuana or poppers. They consume hardcore drugs like GHB,…
Making The Connection For men who go to the baths, it is not just about sex. It’s about making a connection—the desire for gay men to connect with other gay men. Why is there this need to make a connection with someone? One word: loneliness, or rather, a subconscious feeling of isolation. Despite the strides…
Body Vs Race Why is it that the gay community considers very young and bone-thin Gay White Men Abercrombie and Fitch? However, gay Asians who have a similar body type are often viewed as undesirable and worthless. White European-type men are the primary attraction for gay men in America. Ironically, European men are generally more…
Bathhouse Drunks As you’ve read in my essays, the majority of men visit the baths as a means of attracting attention or establishing social connections. Some men visit the baths because they are among the loneliest individuals on the planet. These are truly lost souls. There are many, and I am one of them. We…
Sex With Clothes On While many gay men love gay baths, there are just as many men who are scared of the tubs. Those who have never been to a bathhouse are unsure about what lies on the other side, as it can be intimidating to venture into the unknown. The most frequent question I…
Being Homeless At The Gay Baths The weather has been crazy, and those who dismiss global warming as a myth are clearly in denial. The past couple of days have been below minus 10. We have gone from one extreme (a hot drought in the summer) to the other (frost in the winter). This cold…
Looking To Get Laid At The Gay Baths. The number one reason guys go to the baths is to have sex; that concept hasn’t changed. What has changed is the intensity and drive for sex. These men want an ass to fuck, or they want their hole plugged—period. These men have a genuine obsession with…