Gay Bathhouse Etiquette First and foremost, bathhouses are places for men to have sex. It serves as a sexual playground where men can indulge in their desires and engage in sexual activities around the clock, akin to a 24-hour convenience store. Come to think of it, the baths are like a supermarket. You can shop…
Why Gay Men Go To The Baths All these bathhouse stories probably have you asking, “Why do I spend so much time at the gay baths?” That is a fair question. This essay will clarify why so many gay men (me included) spend so much time at a gay bathhouse. The bathhouse scene is a…
Racism Or Preference? The first two entries were to lay down a foundation for these stories. Right now, I’d like to tell you a bit about myself. Even though I am in my thirties, I still look a decade younger. People always ask me, “What are you taking in college?” or “Do you go to…
Open Relationships Any long-term gay relationship eventually needs a change. While a couple can love one another and cannot imagine a life without each other, the sex can get stale. In short, some couples feel the need to have new sexual experiences outside the relationship. They want to explore new avenues, go into uncharted territory,…
Chubs and Chasers Some gay men who go to the baths look for a specific type of guy that isn’t typically found in a bar, club, or even personals. Sometimes you must go to the baths to seek the man who fits your ideal type. Case in point, Malcolm, who is newly out and very…
The Politics of Oral Sex Oral sex is the most common sex act at the baths; you can see it everywhere. There is a significant amount of oral sex taking place in the whirlpool, shower area, and lounge. It is so commonplace that it seems to be a prerequisite to be a gay man—that you…
Been There Done That Being a bathhouse regular, you repeatedly meet and see some of the same guys over and over again. With some men, you can be friendly. With others, you can acknowledge and give a nod or a sign of recognition. Then there are those you ignore. Being ignored by other men is…