Gay Bathhouse Etiquette First and foremost, bathhouses are places for men to have sex. It is a sexual playground for men to do whatever they want: a place to get sex 24/7, like a 24-hour convenience store. Come to think of it; the Baths are like a supermarket. You can shop for whatever you are…
Why Gay Men Go To The Baths All these bathhouse stories probably have you asking, “Why do I spend so much time at the baths.” That is a fair question. This essay will clarify why so many gay men (myself included) spend so much time at the baths. The bathhouse scene is a real society…
Racism Or Preference? The first two entries were to lay down a foundation for these stories. Right now, I’d like to tell you a bit about myself. Even though I am in my thirties, I still look a decade younger. Whenever I meet someone new, the first question is, “What are you taking in college?”…
Open Relationships There comes a time in any long-term gay relationship when a change is needed. While a couple can love one another and not imagine a life without each other, the sex can get stale. In short, a couple must have new sexual experiences outside the relationship. To try new things, experiment, and get…
Chubs and Chasers Some gay men who go to the baths look for a specific type of guy that isn’t typically found in a bar, club, or even personals. Sometimes you must go to the baths to seek the man who fits your ideal type. Case in point, Malcolm, who is newly out and very…
The Politics of Oral Sex The number one sex act performed at the baths is oral sex; you see it everywhere. So much oral is going on in the whirlpool, the shower area, and the lounge. It is prevalent to see oral sex performed out in the open. It is so commonplace that it seems…
Been There Done That Being a bathhouse regular, you repeatedly meet and see some of the same guys over and over again. With some men, you can be friendly. With others, you can acknowledge and give a nod or a sign of recognition. Then there are those you ignore. Being ignored by other men is…