Racism Or Preference? The first two entries were to lay down a foundation for these stories. Right now, I’d like to tell you a bit about myself. Even though I am in my thirties, I still look a decade younger. People always ask me, “What are you taking in college?” or “Do you go to…
The Politics of Oral Sex Oral sex is the most common sex act at the baths; you can see it everywhere. There is a significant amount of oral sex taking place in the whirlpool, shower area, and lounge. It is so commonplace that it seems to be a prerequisite to be a gay man—that you…
Tricks of the Trade The minute I saw him, I knew his motives. He had blond hair, blue eyes, and a gorgeous physique. I would assume he is in his mid-twenties. He was not completely naked, unlike the rest of us cruising through the baths. However, he was shirtless, wearing his pants just loose enough…
Prime Timers Gay baths consistently attract this specific type of person. It doesn’t matter whether it’s day or night, raining or snowing, or if there are a hundred or a handful of guys present. This specific type is consistently present in the tubs. What “type” am I describing? I am referring to any person over…
Real Men Cuddle When you visit the gay baths, it is important to remember that this is not a venue for niceties. It’s not the place to find a boyfriend. It’s an arena for quick and anonymous sex, which is why men go to the baths. The more times guys can have sex and get…
My Tenth Anniversary It occurred to me that I will be celebrating ten years of going to the baths – my tenth anniversary this month. Wow, I cannot believe it. The past ten years have flown by. At age 31, I realized that I would have spent one-third of my life walking the halls of…
Making The Connection For men who go to the baths, it is not just about sex. It’s about making a connection—the desire for gay men to connect with other gay men. Why is there this need to make a connection with someone? One word: loneliness, or rather, a subconscious feeling of isolation. Despite the strides…