Sex Standing Up At The Gay Baths

Sex Standing Up At The Gay Baths

If you want to be a regular patron at the baths, you must master one sexual activity in order to be a bathhouse pro. No, I’m not talking about being an experienced top or an oral expert. You need to know how to have sex while standing.

When you think of having sex, you think of this activity as horizontal, not vertical. However, this is not the case at the baths. This is primarily due to gay men’s lack of interest in spending quality time. Nope, they want it fast, quick, and as many times as possible.

Consequently, you will witness men engaging in sexual activities while standing. Even if they have their own private room, guys think, “Why waste time? Let’s do it now.” Sex at the baths happens more often publicly than privately. Additionally, the baths offer numerous locations for intimate encounters—the sauna, the steam room, the hallway, the whirlpool, the shower area, the darkroom, and the list goes on.

Having sex in a vertical position is not as straightforward as it sounds. Maintaining balance while one hand holds your towel and the other simultaneously strokes your cock is a challenging task. Having sex with only one hand available is a challenge—but one you can learn with practice. Returning to the towel, my sole recommendation is to drape it around your neck. It can be awkward, as you want to press each other’s chest skin-to-skin. Having this big fluffy towel around the neck gets in the way.

If you think that’s difficult, try getting rimmed while standing. Your only recourse is to bend over and spread those legs. There’s no position where you can elevate your legs while standing upright. Then there’s the activity of performing oral sex in a squatting position. That makes juggling a towel even harder. But if you like to give blowjobs, you’re in gay heaven at the baths. Given the abundance of available cocks, there are plenty of places to indulge in oral sex. It is truly a buyer’s market. Plus, there are numerous glory holes to lurk around. However, since most of the guys will be standing, it’s important to practice your squatting position. It is an excellent exercise for the muscles of the thighs, hips, and buttocks. This is an activity where you get two for the price of one!

What about trying to fuck someone? Why would anyone want to fuck standing when you can fuck horizontally on a bed in someone’s room? Wouldn’t that make more sense? Absolutely not; fucking someone against the wall is more of a turn-on than doing it on a bed. In addition, going to someone’s room would mean the guy would give more of himself to the other person. He doesn’t want to expose that intimate side of himself to just anyone. Sure, a guy can be hardcore and animalistic regarding sex. However, entering someone’s room signifies a formal commitment to a specific person. Guys at the baths like to separate the personal from the sexual. Sex is sex. Period. My inner feelings are for myself, and I’m not giving them to you.

For instance, consider this man: he stands 6 feet tall, has blonde hair, blue eyes, and a well-defined physique. He can confidently enter any gay bar and attract any man, yet he consistently frequents the baths. He refuses to go into a guy’s room or speak to anyone. He dresses in a bathing suit, goes into the darkroom, and stands there. He desires to have his body worshipped and sucked off. It is not uncommon for five men to be pawing him, sucking his nipples and cock, and running their hands over him all at once. However, he refrains from kissing, deeming it too intimate, and avoids exchanging words. He never goes after anyone; instead, he stands in a corner and waits for guys to come to him. He keeps his feet firmly planted on the ground to prevent anyone from removing his bathing suit. People have attempted to strip him completely naked. However, with his feet glued to the floor, that bathing suit always rests around his ankles.

Lack of a room is another factor contributing to the prevalence of sex while standing. Men will often hook up with another guy but discover neither has a room. Both only have lockers. This means that you need to find a place within the gay baths where you can engage in sexual activities. Fortunately, many baths have offered a solution to this problem. They have standing booths, similar to telephone booths, but without a telephone. Therefore, you and your partner enter the booth, close the door, and allow the magic to unfold. It is awkward and challenging to maneuver standing up. But what choice do you have? If you can’t find privacy, it’s booths or no sex.

If the bathhouse doesn’t have privacy booths, you must have sex in the open. If you’re an exhibitionist and don’t mind guys watching, you’re fine. But some are a bit shy about giving a blowjob in front of an audience. While most view the action from a distance, other guys can be pretty rude about how they watch.

Some men get up close when they watch guys having sex at the baths. How close? How about standing beside you, nose to nose, while he jerks off? These onlookers ignore any signals that this is private. They interpret public sex as an invitation to join in. It can be annoying to have uninvited men try to participate while you are enjoying yourself.

If you are an observer, here is the etiquette for this situation. If you see two men having sex and neither guy can pass as your twin, observe only. Watch from a distance, and don’t join in. But what if one of the men could pass for your twin? Follow the same advice as before but pay close attention to them. If you get a nod or a signal from either, slink over and join in.

Another reason to have sex standing up is to avoid breaking the mood by going back to someone’s room. Everything is hot, and you’re having fun. One of you suggests returning to his room, which you do. Upon arrival, there is no connection. Before, you were kissing and sucking, having a wonderful time. Now you discover that you’re not sexually compatible—you’re both bottoms, one dislikes rimming, or he is unattractive in the new light. There could be a variety of reasons for this, and going back to someone’s room could change the vibe. So don’t be surprised if your partner doesn’t want to get horizontal in privacy. Either he wants it now, while standing, or he doesn’t want to disrupt the mood. He has experienced one or the other, and it ended badly.

If you take anything from this essay about having sex vertically at the baths, follow this advice. Tall, lanky guys make the best lovers to have sex with standing up.