The Politics of Oral Sex Oral sex is the most common sex act at the baths; you can see it everywhere. There is a significant amount of oral sex taking place in the whirlpool, shower area, and lounge. It is so commonplace that it seems to be a prerequisite to be a gay man—that you…
Quickies One thing synonymous with a bathhouse is quickie sex, which takes place on an hourly basis. You would think that gay men would want to spend as much time as possible enjoying sex. However, many guys have told me that they prefer quickies because they are exactly that: They are concise and direct. There…
Making The Connection For men who go to the baths, it is not just about sex. It’s about making a connection—the desire for gay men to connect with other gay men. Why is there this need to make a connection with someone? One word: loneliness, or rather, a subconscious feeling of isolation. Despite the strides…