Why Gay Men Go To The Baths All these bathhouse stories probably have you asking, “Why do I spend so much time at the baths.” That is a fair question. This essay will clarify why so many gay men (myself included) spend so much time at the baths. The bathhouse scene is a real society…
Sex In The Dark Room Every time I go to the gay baths, I always hope to meet someone I can connect with physically and mentally, even if it is just for a few hours. But after years of going to the baths, I realize I am in the minority. Most guys want a quickie,…
The Out of Towners Whenever a three-day long weekend rolls around, a steady stream of Out-of-Towners always passes through the doors of the baths. Whether it is Labor Day weekend or Easter, it is still the same for tourists who are gay (single or couples). The trip would not be complete without visiting the local…
Eye Contact You walk down the street and catch some guy’s eye. You do not stop to continue the gaze with a nod and a friendly smile; you continue to walk. Grocery shopping, your eyes meet with another guy briefly before you look away. At the gym, so many guys with so many eyes. But…
Bathhouse Drunks As I have written, most guys go to the baths to get laid or socialize, to make that connection. Some men go to the baths because they are the loneliest people on the planet. These are truly lost souls. There are many, and I am one of them. Not victims, but guys who…
Being Homeless At The Gay Baths The weather has been crazy, and those who dismiss global warming as a myth are clearly in denial. The past couple of days have been below –10. We have gone from one extreme (hot drought in the summer) to the other (frost in the winter). This cold weather has…