Why Gay Men Go To The Baths All these bathhouse stories probably have you asking, “Why do I spend so much time at the gay baths?” That is a fair question. This essay will clarify why so many gay men (me included) spend so much time at a gay bathhouse. The bathhouse scene is a…
Sex In The Dark Room Every time I go to the gay baths, I always hope to meet someone I can connect with physically and mentally, even if it is just for a few hours. But after years of going to the baths, I realize I am in the minority. Most guys want a quickie,…
The Out of Towners Every three-day weekend brings a steady stream of out-of-town visitors through the baths’ doors. Whether it is Labor Day weekend or Easter, it is still the same for tourists who are gay (singles or couples). The trip would not be complete without visiting the local gay baths. Here is a statistic:…
Eye Contact As you stroll down the street, the eye of a man catches yours. You don’t pause to continue the gaze with a nod and a friendly smile; instead, you keep walking. While grocery shopping, your eyes meet another guy’s briefly before you look away. At the gym, there were so many guys with…
Bathhouse Drunks As you’ve read in my essays, the majority of men visit the baths as a means of attracting attention or establishing social connections. Some men visit the baths because they are among the loneliest individuals on the planet. These are truly lost souls. There are many, and I am one of them. We…
Being Homeless At The Gay Baths The weather has been crazy, and those who dismiss global warming as a myth are clearly in denial. The past couple of days have been below minus 10. We have gone from one extreme (a hot drought in the summer) to the other (frost in the winter). This cold…