Real Men Cuddle

Real Men Cuddle

When you visit the gay baths, it is important to remember that this is not a venue for niceties. It’s not the place to find a boyfriend. It’s an arena for quick and anonymous sex, which is why men go to the baths. The more times guys can have sex and get laid, the better. So don’t expect to find someone tender, loving, and compassionate.

This is because most men who are at the baths tend to get up and walk out after the sex is finished. He leaves without even acknowledgment. These men are already thinking about their next conquest. It is probable that you will encounter the individual at a later time, and you may even witness him engaging in sexual intercourse with another guy. Don’t take things personally; the essence of gay baths is quick and accessible sex. Men who cruise for sex do not regard you as a person. You are an object, and you need to accept that basic fact. If you can’t handle that, then maybe the baths are not for you.

Once the deed is complete, I advise everyone not to rush out. Relax for a few minutes of cuddling. You should ensure that every man feels at ease following the sexual encounter, regardless of how it unfolded. Any coercion into doing something you didn’t want to do is the only exception. Those are your lines and boundaries. If someone crosses them, you have the freedom to depart without giving a reason.

Let’s revisit the topic of men getting up and leaving after sex. You shouldn’t expect any afterglow once the sex is over. A post-sex conversation only happens if both of you connect in a genuine way. Then the other guy lingers around for a while. You engage in some chitchat, share a cigarette, and even have intimate moments before parting ways. However, some guys look for something even better than basking in the afterglow of sex—cuddling.

Because I am Asian, men looking to cuddle at the baths often hit on me. The soft skin we Asians have, combined with our super smooth bodies, is an irresistible and perfect quality that cuddlers seek out. Sam is a perfect example of this type of person. From the outset, he looks tough. He sports a leather jacket, a flannel shirt, torn jeans, black leather boots, and a goatee. You would think he must be into heavy S&M. But no, he likes the art of touching. As a student of ancient Chinese massage, Sam’s touch is out of this world. Guys scream in agony when Sam touches their delicate areas. His fingers barely touch the other person’s body as he gently goes over his partner’s chest, arms, hands, legs, and especially the sides of their stomach area. This area often reaches a man’s most sensitive spot. Sam would then re-explore certain parts of his partner’s body by giving them a full-body tongue bath with some oral thrown in along the way.

At the baths, cuddling is the closest one gets to body worship. It is rare, but it does happen. Meet Charlie, a 55-year-old investment banker who does not look over 50. He has kept up a strict exercise regimen, vitamins, and diet. Charlie gets off performing all the necessary tasks during a sexual encounter, including oral, rimming, sucking, and kissing. Those guys sometimes feel guilty about Charlie doing all the work and always ask him if there is anything he wants to do. Charlie always assures his partners to just lay back and enjoy.

I’ve had some touching and cuddling, and here is one technique I learned from a masseuse I used to know:

Ask your partner to lie on his stomach. Next, take a towel and cover your partner’s back, ass, and some of his legs.

Massage your partner very hard, using the towel as a barrier.

Then take the end of the towel and slide it off your partner’s body ever so slowly.

It makes a man’s body tingle all over. Once the towel’s lifted off your partner’s body, place the towel back on your partner’s and repeat (minus the vigorous massage) two or three times.

It is difficult to tell what some guys are into when you cruise them at the gay baths. Some may be into cuddling, while others are not. It is tough to weed out the cuddlers from the non-cuddlers. However, they do go to the baths, though it is challenging to find them. But it’s always a crapshoot.