# Bathhouse Blues > Your Guide To Gay Bathhouses ## Posts - [Gay Bathhouse Etiquette](https://bathhouseblues.com/gay-bathhouse-etiquette/): Gay Bathhouse Etiquette First and foremost, bathhouses are places for men to have sex. It serves as a sexual playground where men can indulge in their desires and engage in sexual activities around the clock, akin to a 24-hour convenience store. Come to think of it, the baths are like a supermarket. You can shop… - [Why Gay Men Go To The Baths](https://bathhouseblues.com/why-gay-men-go-to-gay-baths/): Why Gay Men Go To The Baths All these bathhouse stories probably have you asking, “Why do I spend so much time at the gay baths?” That is a fair question. This essay will clarify why so many gay men (me included) spend so much time at a gay bathhouse. The bathhouse scene is a… - [Racism Or Preference?](https://bathhouseblues.com/racism/): Racism Or Preference? The first two entries were to lay down a foundation for these stories. Right now, I’d like to tell you a bit about myself. Even though I am in my thirties, I still look a decade younger. People always ask me, “What are you taking in college?” or “Do you go to… - [Open Relationships](https://bathhouseblues.com/open-relationships/): Open Relationships Any long-term gay relationship eventually needs a change. While a couple can love one another and cannot imagine a life without each other, the sex can get stale. In short, some couples feel the need to have new sexual experiences outside the relationship. They want to explore new avenues, go into uncharted territory,… - [Chubs and Chasers](https://bathhouseblues.com/chubs-chasers/): Chubs and Chasers Some gay men who go to the baths look for a specific type of guy that isn’t typically found in a bar, club, or even personals. Sometimes you must go to the baths to seek the man who fits your ideal type. Case in point, Malcolm, who is newly out and very… - [The Politics of Oral Sex](https://bathhouseblues.com/oral-sex/): The Politics of Oral Sex Oral sex is the most common sex act at the baths; you can see it everywhere. There is a significant amount of oral sex taking place in the whirlpool, shower area, and lounge. It is so commonplace that it seems to be a prerequisite to be a gay man—that you… - [Been There Done That](https://bathhouseblues.com/done/): Been There Done That Being a bathhouse regular, you repeatedly meet and see some of the same guys over and over again. With some men, you can be friendly. With others, you can acknowledge and give a nod or a sign of recognition. Then there are those you ignore. Being ignored by other men is… - [Voyeurism](https://bathhouseblues.com/voyeurism/): Voyeurism Men go to the baths because of a need to connect with another person. (Read Making The Connection) However, some men go for an entirely different reason. They go because they want to be a voyeur. Where else can you see naked bodies walking around 24-7 in the winter? Seeing all that eye candy… - [Judging A Book By Its Cover](https://bathhouseblues.com/judging-book/): Judging A Book By Its Cover Just recently, I was waiting for public transit. Then I saw this guy. He was six feet tall, with sandy brown hair, a narrow nose, clean-shaven and clean-cut. He wore pressed jeans, a gray pullover, Dock Martins, and a varsity-type jacket. My guess is he was thirty. He had… - [Christmas @ The Baths](https://bathhouseblues.com/christmas/): Christmas @ The Baths One of the unique aspects of a bathhouse is the hours. You can go at any time, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. The baths are even open during the holidays. As a veteran of the tubs, I have gone on Thanksgiving, Mother’s Day, Easter Sunday, and Xmas Day.… - [The HIV Experience](https://bathhouseblues.com/hiv/): The HIV Experience After over twenty years at the baths, I’ve educated myself on the boundaries of safe sex and sexually transmitted infections, in particular, HIV and AIDS. I have two close friends who live with the virus. Both have been living with this disease for over a decade. I am aware that this is… - [The Price of Admission](https://bathhouseblues.com/price-admission/): The Price of Admission So let me ask you a question. What can $25.00 buy you right now? The novel for the next book club? Some groceries? Your weekly packs of cigarettes? For me, $25.00 is the price to rent a room for eight hours at the baths. Regarding the baths, I have lost all… - [Rice Queens](https://bathhouseblues.com/rice-queens/): Rice Queens A while back, I found the baths deserted. The only customers were me, a young, tall white guy, and this other white guy I’d seen on and off at the tubs. The latter man seemed mentally disabled. He had clumps of hair on his head, thick wire-frame glasses, and a body like a… - [Gay Porn](https://bathhouseblues.com/porn/): Gay Porn The one thing constant in most bathhouses across North America (other than all the available sex) is that each establishment has a room designated for viewing gay porn during the lull moments at the bath. The typical porn room features a TV with couches or chairs for men to sit on. As I… - [The Bathhouse Lunch Special](https://bathhouseblues.com/lunch-special/): The Bathhouse Lunch Special Do you mean that you’ve never heard of the lunch special, the one costing $8.00? When I told my friend, he exclaimed, “Wow, where can I get lunch that cheap?” Well, men are hungry. But it is not the food they are craving. At that hour, men are looking for quickie… - [When Desperation Sinks In](https://bathhouseblues.com/desperation/): When Desperation Sinks In Many men have different reasons for going to a bathhouse. While most men go for easy and quick sex, a few go for different reasons. You may be one of those men who go to relax, unwind, and escape from the world. However, after an hour or so at the baths,… - [Accessories](https://bathhouseblues.com/accessories/): Accessories You would think the only thing coming between you and a hot guy at the baths would be the towels both of you are wearing. However, you will often see guys wearing more than just their towels to get extra attention, known as accessorizing. At the baths, you want to impress other guys with… - [Sex In The Dark Room](https://bathhouseblues.com/dark-room-sex/): Sex In The Dark Room Every time I go to the gay baths, I always hope to meet someone I can connect with physically and mentally, even if it is just for a few hours. But after years of going to the baths, I realize I am in the minority. Most guys want a quickie,… - [Tricks of the Trade](https://bathhouseblues.com/turn-tricks/): Tricks of the Trade The minute I saw him, I knew his motives. He had blond hair, blue eyes, and a gorgeous physique. I would assume he is in his mid-twenties. He was not completely naked, unlike the rest of us cruising through the baths. However, he was shirtless, wearing his pants just loose enough… - [The Out of Towners](https://bathhouseblues.com/towners/): The Out of Towners Every three-day weekend brings a steady stream of out-of-town visitors through the baths’ doors. Whether it is Labor Day weekend or Easter, it is still the same for tourists who are gay (singles or couples). The trip would not be complete without visiting the local gay baths. Here is a statistic:… - [Straight & Bi Married Men At The Gay Baths](https://bathhouseblues.com/married-men/): Straight & Bi Married Men At the baths, watching men cruise each other for a hookup is enjoyable to observe. One of my favorite pastimes is sitting in one of the busiest hallways, seeing all the men pass me by, and focusing on their left hands. Why? I like to see how many wedding rings… - [Pride Day At The Gay Baths](https://bathhouseblues.com/pride-day/): Pride Day At The Gay Baths For any gay man, summer is a reason for celebration. Not only is the weather warm and beautiful, but it is also when most North American cities host their Pride Day festivities. We have made significant progress. Since Pride Day generally falls on a Sunday, many in the gay… - [Prime Timers](https://bathhouseblues.com/prime-timers/): Prime Timers Gay baths consistently attract this specific type of person. It doesn’t matter whether it’s day or night, raining or snowing, or if there are a hundred or a handful of guys present. This specific type is consistently present in the tubs. What “type” am I describing? I am referring to any person over… - [Quickies](https://bathhouseblues.com/quickies/): Quickies One thing synonymous with a bathhouse is quickie sex, which takes place on an hourly basis. You would think that gay men would want to spend as much time as possible enjoying sex. However, many guys have told me that they prefer quickies because they are exactly that: They are concise and direct. There… - [Real Men Cuddle](https://bathhouseblues.com/real-men-cuddle/): Real Men Cuddle When you visit the gay baths, it is important to remember that this is not a venue for niceties. It’s not the place to find a boyfriend. It’s an arena for quick and anonymous sex, which is why men go to the baths. The more times guys can have sex and get… - [My Tenth Anniversary](https://bathhouseblues.com/tenth-anniversary/): My Tenth Anniversary It occurred to me that I will be celebrating ten years of going to the baths – my tenth anniversary this month. Wow, I cannot believe it. The past ten years have flown by. At age 31, I realized that I would have spent one-third of my life walking the halls of… - [Eye Contact](https://bathhouseblues.com/eye-contact/): Eye Contact As you stroll down the street, the eye of a man catches yours. You don’t pause to continue the gaze with a nod and a friendly smile; instead, you keep walking. While grocery shopping, your eyes meet another guy’s briefly before you look away. At the gym, there were so many guys with… - [Drug Use @ The Baths: Part 1](https://bathhouseblues.com/drug-use-bathhouse-1/): Drug Use @ The Baths: Part 1 The following is a true story. The customer in Room 3-1-6 was late—on real overtime! He checked in around 8 PM the previous night, and now Noon was approaching, just in time for the lunch special. Generally, there is a grace period for customers who run overtime for… - [Drug Use @ The Baths: Part 2](https://bathhouseblues.com/drug-use-bathhouse-2/): Drug Use @ The Baths: Part 2 The prevalence of drug use among gay men continues to amaze me. Many of these men can function, hold a job, and maintain relationships with others. Simultaneously, the individual is ingesting drugs all day long. They do not use marijuana or poppers. They consume hardcore drugs like GHB,… - [Making The Connection](https://bathhouseblues.com/making-connection/): Making The Connection For men who go to the baths, it is not just about sex. It’s about making a connection—the desire for gay men to connect with other gay men. Why is there this need to make a connection with someone? One word: loneliness, or rather, a subconscious feeling of isolation. Despite the strides… - [Body Vs Race](https://bathhouseblues.com/body-vs-race/): Body Vs Race Why is it that the gay community considers very young and bone-thin Gay White Men Abercrombie and Fitch? However, gay Asians who have a similar body type are often viewed as undesirable and worthless. White European-type men are the primary attraction for gay men in America. Ironically, European men are generally more… - [Bathhouse Drunks](https://bathhouseblues.com/gay-bathhouse-drunks/): Bathhouse Drunks As you’ve read in my essays, the majority of men visit the baths as a means of attracting attention or establishing social connections. Some men visit the baths because they are among the loneliest individuals on the planet. These are truly lost souls. There are many, and I am one of them. We… - [Sex With Clothes On](https://bathhouseblues.com/sex-clothes/): Sex With Clothes On While many gay men love gay baths, there are just as many men who are scared of the tubs. Those who have never been to a bathhouse are unsure about what lies on the other side, as it can be intimidating to venture into the unknown. The most frequent question I… - [Being Homeless At The Gay Baths](https://bathhouseblues.com/homeless/): Being Homeless At The Gay Baths The weather has been crazy, and those who dismiss global warming as a myth are clearly in denial. The past couple of days have been below minus 10. We have gone from one extreme (a hot drought in the summer) to the other (frost in the winter). This cold… - [Looking To Get Laid @ The Baths](https://bathhouseblues.com/get-laid-gay-baths/): Looking To Get Laid At The Gay Baths. The number one reason guys go to the baths is to have sex; that concept hasn’t changed. What has changed is the intensity and drive for sex. These men want an ass to fuck, or they want their hole plugged—period. These men have a genuine obsession with… - [Sex Standing Up At The Gay Baths](https://bathhouseblues.com/sex-standing-gay-baths/): Sex Standing Up At The Gay Baths If you want to be a regular patron at the baths, you must master one sexual activity in order to be a bathhouse pro. No, I’m not talking about being an experienced top or an oral expert. You need to know how to have sex while standing. When… - [Barefoot Essentials](https://bathhouseblues.com/barefoot-essentials-gay-baths/): Barefoot Essentials Let’s face it, you don’t need much at the baths to make an impression. You are just exhibiting the bare essentials—your nakedness wrapped in a towel. However, there is an old saying that says clothes make a man. You wouldn’t think that statement would hold up in a bathhouse while wearing only a… - [The 24 Hour Day](https://bathhouseblues.com/24-hour-day/): The 24 Hour Day The 24-Hour Day People keep asking me when the best time is to go to the baths. The problem is that there is no clear-cut answer; there are different times when different things happen, with different crowds. Right now, let me guide you on a 24-hour day in an average bathhouse.… ## Pages - [Disclaimer & Copyright](https://bathhouseblues.com/disclaimer-copyright/): Disclaimer This site contains external web site links to other sites. Bathhouse Blues (Bathhouse Diaries) is not responsible or has any control over the privacy practices or the content of these other sites or their associated companies and partners. By clicking on any other buttons or links on this site you are representing that you… - [Gay Bathhouse Books](https://bathhouseblues.com/gay-bathhouse-books/): Bathhouse Blues Support This Site & Buy The Book Now! This is the only book to explore the culture and community feeling of the gay baths. It is written from the perspective of a Gay Asian male that has spent over 20 years walking the hallways of gay bathhouses. For anyone unfamiliar with gay bathhouse… - [Gay White & Gay Asian Men Speak Out!](https://bathhouseblues.com/gwm-gam/): Recently at the baths I ran into Malcolm (read Chubs and Chasers). He was with another chub and they were relaxing in the hot tub after another sex session. I lamented to Malcolm about the lack of guys (of any race) that are interested in Gay Asian Men. Malcolm listened in sympathy and suggested I… - [Boiling Rice: Part 2](https://bathhouseblues.com/boiling-rice-2/): Gay Asians confront widespread prejudice in the nightclub scene (aka “Boiling Rice”) By David Noh, New York Blade News, January 10, 2003 New to L.A. and wanna know where I can go clubbing without being harassed by tons of creepy Asians. I went to the Factory and that's all there were. Which is cool, do… - [Boiling Rice: Part 1](https://bathhouseblues.com/boiling-rice/): This is a fascinating article. "Boiling Rice" talks about the un-discussed, but disturbingly prevalent racist attitude against Gay Asian Men in the gay community. Click link to read - Boiling Rice Of course, this website has been talking about this subject for years. Below are comments about the story "Boiling Rice", taken from a discussion… - [White Men Preferred](https://bathhouseblues.com/white-men-preferred/): Recently while surfing the web, I came across this letter on a gay discussion forum. The author wrote about posting a companion ad, and about how irritated he got when visible minorities responded. He states unapologetically that he prefers his own race, white men only. And no other race would do. The author also wrote… - [The Truth About Gay Asian Men](https://bathhouseblues.com/truth-about-gay-asian-men/): The lack of interest that White Men have in Asian Men and of how even Asian men shun each other By Jason Chang, aMagazine, February/March 2001 "Are you sticky?" It was a hot summer evening in Boston almost a decade ago, and I was one of only two Asian men in a crowded, predominantly white… - [About Me](https://bathhouseblues.com/about-me/): About Me Welcome. I am a gay Asian male, and I have written a gay bathhouse blog called Bathhouse Blues. These are my experiences and observations in a gay bathhouse setting for over 20 years. This site represents the best and most educational stories on bathhouse culture. Bit of background. Since I was 21 years… - [Reviews](https://bathhouseblues.com/reviews/): I stumbled across this site and thought it was so interesting that it was definitely in need of a mention here. Yes, bathhouse blog! How inventive is that! Perhaps there are a thousand of them out there and I'm the ignorant novice yet to be reading one, but what a novel concept! This particular man… ## Optional - [Agent (MCP protocol)](websites-agents.hostinger.com/bathhouseblues.com/mcp) [comment]: # (Generated by Hostinger Tools Plugin)