GWM & GAM Speak Out!
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Name: A Lone Black Voice
City/Country: Charleston, USA
I just finished reading your website and want to share how absolutely tired I am of hearing you (and some other Asian gay males I indirectly know) bemoan the love lost between you and WHITE GAY MALES.
Perhaps one of the reasons white guys ignore you (to your belief) is the fact that they understand the value you put on them. From reading your excerpts, anyone can see that you put a high measure of value in white guys. Yet, in the same writings, you explain how attractive you are. If this is so, then why do you not find attractiveness in other Asians? Why do you not find attractive features in other races (Indian, Black, Latino etc.)?
You see a white guy as a trophy willing to do almost anything for him (foot fetish story).
But I digress.
I have a boyfriend who happens to be white. And when I say white, I truly mean WASP white. He comes from a very upscale family but and a big BUT he understands that I will not adapt to his way of living. I am black and proud to be black. This is why he was attracted to me. And I don't play stereotypes with him; when I top he bottoms, when I bottom he tops. I was not out in the world looking for a white guy. I would have been just as happy with any good guy. He saw this and it attracted him to me.
You treat a white guy like a trophy. Your dreams would be fulfilled if a white guy under 40 would accept you. Why do you need his acceptance? Why do you only see beauty in white guys?
Do you not find Asians attractive?
Do you not find Latinos attractive?
Do you not find Blacks attractive?
Do you not find Indians attractive?
You can't on one hand say that the gay community is so superficial and then at the same type live a superficial life.
I sometimes laugh to myself thinking that gay Asians are some of the funniest guys I have ever met.
It is so blatantly obvious that white men are your key to being accepted -- the only true beauty you want to see. You say white guys who love Asians are rare. I counter you with this:
Asian guys who love Asians/Blacks/Latinos are even more rare.
You should reevaluate your positions posted on this website.
Name: CJ
City/Country: Texas, USA
I'm a very light Hispanic guy, most people think I'm half a few think I'm white. I just wanted to say I find Asian guys VERY sexy! In fact that is kind-of a plus for me, but you're right, most of the white guys I know (save two who also love) don't think Asian guys are cute. I never really thought about how many guys look at me strange when they say I like Asian guys till I came by your site. But between you and me (and anyone else who reads this) you totally sound like a guy I'd date except for the age difference and the frequent bathhouse thing.
Name: Paul
City/Country: Hong Kong, CHN
Having grown up in Vancouver and Toronto and been living in Asia for the past 4 years, I've noticed that all the white guys that do take notice of Asian guys are old and fat...and what's more sad is that good-looking and fit Asian guys will fall for them too! I'm not being racist and I find men of all race have their attractiveness...I find white guys ignoring Asians is understandable cause they may not understand our culture and background...but what I find more revolting is Asians turning fellow Asians down...I have Asian friends who would really rather sleep with a white grandfather of 60 than a fellow young and fit Asian...being Asian in a predominantly white world, if we cannot appreciate our own background how can we expect others to appreciate us??
Name: Jay
City/Country: Singapore
I read all the articles you wrote. They really sound very sincere. Just to let you know, I share your view about the Asian gay community. We are always striving to be the best that we do not know how to enjoy ourselves. My situation with yours is similar. I don't frequent pubs because I feel like in a meat market. I look younger than my age and people always say that I have an approachable face. Reading your story makes me realize that there is someone out there who shares almost the same view as me. This is truly heart gratifying
By the way, I posted an ad on that personal sex website I mentioned at the beginning of this story. Since updating this essay, it's been nine months and I have yet to receive a response.
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