GWM & GAM Speak Out!
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Name: Unknown
City/Country: Unknown
An Asian (or other non-Caucasian) guy might not be my first choice, but only because of the sense of 'foreignness', not because I don't find them attractive. I just feel more 'comfortable' with a guy who is more like me (if he's more like me in height, build, age, etc, that's better too, so its not just race) But I have had sex with Asian guys, and I'd definitely do it with a black or Latino guy if the opportunity arose, I just might not pursue it, I'd be more comfortable if they pursued me... maybe that's what you need to do.
Name: Felix
City/Country: USA
Your outlook on White people seems pretty negative. I am afraid that you will end up pretty lonely. Not all White men who are attracted to Asians are old or have a fetish. Maybe your attitude drives the good ones away. Have you "taken a look in the mirror" lately? I am not trying to be rude or mean, just helpful. Also, I find it insulting to be labeled "old" or a "fetish" person just because I like Asians.
Name: bird1
City/Country: Oklahoma, USA
I just read your comments about gay older men and younger Asian men. I do not object to your not liking to be with older men. However, I do think it is strange that in some respects you seem so accepting, and then when it comes to older white men with younger Asian men you must look for reasons why they like each other, hang ups that they must have. Since you certainly engage in activity that many people would judge disapprovingly, I am surprised that you make these judgments. None of us can explain our desires. We can only control them if they are evil. If they are out of the norm than we try to find a way to fulfill them. I have always liked young Asian men and I am so happy that there are young Asian men who like older white men. There is nothing wrong with that. We don't need to waste our time looking for reasons, unless we are analyzing any human behavior in a non-judgmental way.
Hey, I still think you are a sweet, wonderful guy, and it would be a privilege to be your friend if I lived in your town. But hopefully I would have an Asian boyfriend who adored me, and you would have to deal with that.
Name: Damien
City/Country: Vancouver, CAN
I have some Asian friends who are no more than that to me, (one in particular) who are really good looking and when they visit the tubs they often don't find what they want. It mystifies me that sometimes the blondes they like sometimes would pick me over them (I'm just average and don't like blondes at all, although I do like dark haired Caucasians, Hispanics.) The entire arrangement seems like a frustration merry-go-round.
Name: DisturbedGayAsianSocialObserver
City/Country: San Francisco, USA
As a gay Asian American male, trained to think in Sociological terms, I have been quite disturbed by the place that Asian Americans hold within the gay community. A sense of being "exotified" permeates many gay Asians in America. This is not am exclusive issue in the gay community, but also in the society at large. Asian Americans are the exotic "other," members of the dominant society (Whites) who are attracted to Asians are deemed deviants. Asian Americans themselves participate in the denial of their own culture, often manifested in the form of rejection of gay people of their own ethnicity. I personally think that there lacks solidarity within the gay Asian community. The exclusion of Asian Americans as legitimate part of the gay community is a complicated issue. Some believe acceptance is built on tolerance, which is in alliance with the Asian emphasis on resilience and endurance of suffering. I however, believe in a more active role as a social observer and participant, in making social change. People need to speak out, not necessarily vocally with every chance he/she gets. But activism can also come in the form of writing, art forms, and more abstract ideological broadcasting. The very existence of this gay Asian male's journal/thoughts/observations to me is a form of activism, whether that was the author's intentions or not. I just want to express a token of appreciation to the author of this website, for projecting your voice. Such activism on the part of Asian American is influential and inspiring, and definitely sorely needed.
Name: Unknown
City/Country: Unknown
I wish you would have more respect for yourself.
You must be a walking pool of filth after so many visits to the bathhouses.
You choose not to open your mind to other races, but yet you feel bitter that ALOT white men don't find you attractive. Seems like Poetic Justice is definitely serving you. Open your mind, man...But it seems you won't and thus...You will continue to be a lonely, little Asian going to bathhouse's 24/7. Kind of pathetic if you ask me....
Name: Gary
City/Country: Manchester, GBR
I enjoyed your pages. Very well written and interesting content. I just like men, regardless of their race :-) Actually, one of my nicest experiences ever was ending up in bed sandwiched between two 21-year-old Chinese students! I have white ancestry traceable back 150 years, but due to my features, a few times I have had guys ask me 'are you a bit foreign' or 'are you mixed-race'. I could tell by the tone that it was a problem to them. I find it weird. My impression is that it is a bigger problem in the USA too. I've been to a few saunas in my time and met some very nice guys there. Some of the best and most interesting.
Name: Barney
City/Country: Los Angeles, USA
ITS NOT MY FAULT!!!!!!!!! I did not enslave you, I did not reject you, and I didn't make you gay or tell you to desire white guys. Apparently someone in your family's past decided they lived in the worst country on earth and begged to come here for a better life. If you hate white guys so much look elsewhere for your fulfillment, and if you dislike my country so much, leave! Since I happened to have been born here, I don't have YOUR convenience of blaming other people for my troubles. GET OVER YOUR SELF!
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