Body vs Race
(at the baths and at the gym)
(Continued from page 1)
You may be thinking, okay maybe I am targeting guys that just have certain fetishes. Try this story on for size. Once I saw a guy in his thirties who was the average looking gay yuppie. He was walking around ignoring every GAM who had a similar or better body than him. Then this young overweight guy showed up. The two promptly went to a room where they f**cked each other. I could overhear the moans and the groans and the proclamation that one of them had such a fine ass. You may be thinking, okay the gay yuppie is a chubby chaser. And I could accept that, because you do not choose whom you are attracted to. But two hours later he was hitting on a bony, rail thin forty-year old. What did all these men have in common? You guessed it they were all white. And that is not an isolated incident.
Orgies and private sex parties have always fascinated me.. For years I've tried to get invited to one. I registered on a gay hook-up site that features such parties. But I was denied an invitation to every single party I requested an invite for. Sometimes I would notice a party that hardly had any participants signed up. I would sign up a few days before, and still get rejected. One guy only had three guys signed up for his party, and I still got rejected for an invite. On his profile he said he was interested in African-American/Black, Hispanic, Multi-Racial, Other and White. He too, didn't check off the box that said 'Asian'
Finally, I slipped through the cracks and got an invite (my first and only one). I was nervous, but I went because I always wanted to go to one. This party was billed 'Real Sex for Real Men'. The operative being that it doesn't matter what you look like everyone is welcome. Well the party turned out to be a disappointment. Oh there were average guys there, but nobody wanted to be with me, as the only Asian. Men of all shapes and sizes stayed away from me like I had the plague. At one point during a break, all of the guys were standing there wondering whom to do next, and I was the only one who didn't get touched. It was like I was invisible. Worse, some guys seemed nervous and avoided eye contact with me. It was like they were worried that they might have to do something with me. Just to be polite.
I was just regulated to tit sucking, if I was lucky enough that the guy didn't push me away. I tried to participate, but was turned away by almost every guy. And other guys in worse shape than me, got tons action. I mentioned earlier that South Asian men have Caucasian features, and thus are considered Caucasian in the gay community. There were three South Asian guys at the party, and they had no problems giving and receiving. In fact I felt that one South Asian guy was in worse shape/looks than me. But he had no problems getting action, including kissing many guys. When I tried to kiss the same guys (in between the tit sucking) the guys would turn their face, so I was kissing their cheek.
I am not the only one to observe this body vs. race issue. This reader from Vancouver, Canada wrote to me saying;
"I have some Asian friends who are no more than that to me, (one in particular) who are really good looking and when they visit the tubs they often don't find what they want. It mystifies me that sometimes the blondes they like sometimes would pick me over them (I'm just average and don't like blondes at all, although I do like dark haired Caucasians, Hispanics.) The entire arrangement seems like a frustration merry-go-round."
Try this other story on for size. The other day I was in the whirlpool and three different guys kept walking back and forth, quite impatiently. The minute I got out of the pool, all three of the guys immediately jumped into the pool. I even overheard one of the guys say "At last" with a sigh. Now it does not take a genius to figure out that they were waiting for me to exit before they got in. And these three guys were of different generations. One was in his twenties, one in his thirties and the other one in his fifties.
Because GAM have a reputation for desperately chasing after white guys, we are all lumped together in the eyes of many GWM. Those three white guys probably thought I was going to hit on them, so they stayed away. Would they have gotten into the whirlpool with me if I were white? Absolutely. I do not doubt it for a second. This type of incident has happened when I've walked into the orgy room, the porn room, or even the shower area. The minute I enter, all of the white guys immediately get up and leave the room. I felt like saying something, but am I being paranoid? Who am I to speculate?
But then on the flip side you have Rice Queens who love Asian Men. So why not just spend you're time hanging out a Gay Asian Bathhouse and chase Rice Queens. Well because Rice Queens have their body standards as well. They want a bone thin Asian men, almost anorexic looking. The thinner the Asian can be, the more desirable they are to Rice Queens.
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